It was a Sunday morning. Oliver had run off to church to volunteer early, so I had the morning to myself. I got up to make some scrambled eggs with toasted rye bread, and a steaming cup of black chai tea. As I sat at our table nibbling on breakfast and sipping my tea, I couldn’t help but feel grateful for a simple morning just as that. Typical weekday mornings consist of me grabbing a yogurt, Oliver handing me coffee in my to-go mug, and quickly shuffling out the door so I can catch the train by 8 a.m. So I was feeling very content with this slow morning and went straight to my journal to write down all the things I felt thankful for in that moment.
Six months. Half a year. Wow was that really six months ago that we said 'I Do?' (actually, we said 'I will'). So much of our normal every day life has changed since moving to New York City that it almost feel like years have gone by. Imagining our lives before getting married feels like a dream almost, and now I'm living in this beautiful fantasy world of being with Oliver every single day.
It was my first day of work. I was lead over to a work space near the rest of the team – a simple, yet pretty good-sized, desk. In the past when approached with a space like this I’ve been told “well, you’ll share this with other interns,” or “you’re just here for now.” But this time, I was told that this very desk was mine for the keeping.
\When I saw this trend on summing up a year in one word, my word came to me immediately: Patience. This year was incredibly life-changing for me. And yet, it was filled with waiting periods that brought my lack of patience to the surface. Sure there were such beautiful moments to cherish this year, but all the other days in between forced me into a type of patience that I wanted nothing to do with. Here were some of my waiting periods:
I can't believe we've been married for four months, and living in NYC for more than three. If anything, life has felt completely unfamiliar these past few weeks. Getting used to a new city, making new friends...it seriously has been a challenge. However, seeing Oliver create music and do what he loves at school makes the adventure all the more worth it.
I can’t believe October is actually over. It came and went so fast. Probably because most of it is a blur…I have never spent more time in one month sitting on the couch watching numerous hours of Gilmore Girls, knitting, and reading Harry Potter. Why? Well I still don’t have a job.
Oliver & I were sitting in this small park in Berkeley on our honeymoon, sharing a delicious lunch from this french take-out place around the corner when we started talking about how tired we were. It wasn’t exactly the exhausted energy that comes from having an adventurous day, it was more of a people tired. We had spent every waking moment together since we said “I Do,” and we started to notice how tired it was trying to entertain the other constantly.
September has been an easier month than August, at least on my end. August was a lot of transition. We spent the first couple of days on our honeymoon in San Francisco, then halfway through the month said goodbye to all of our friends in Chicago. Then it's off to NYC where we immediately transition into this new life. I get asked to start doing some freelance work literally the day after we moved in, which of course starting a 9-5 after so much transition was A LOT for my tiny, emotional self. To top it all off, I started having my stomach issues. Needless to say, August (and the beginning of September) were really hard for us.
If you’ve seen my Instagram feed lately I’m sure you think my life is pretty much perfect. Married the handsome guy, traveled around, moved to an exciting city, creating a home together, and things of that nature. I have to be honest though, lately I’ve had a hard time posting because moving somewhere new has been kind of hard. People make it seem so glamorous in social media, but now that I’ve had a harder look at such a huge move with someone else isn’t all butterflies and daisies. Reality check! It’s messy, complicated, frustrating, and even sometimes kind of lonely. So yes, it’s a bit hard for me to post on Instagram because life isn’t that glamorous right now, and here’s why.
If you haven't already heard, here's a small life update. On July 29, 2016, I married the love of my life. The really attractive guy in this photo? That's my husband, Oliver Hickman. He's pretty incredible and I'm super happy to be sharing the rest of my life with him.
I’ve noticed a new nasty habit of mine that I don’t like. Every morning when I wake up, I roll over to my smartphone and immediately start scrolling through Facebook. Typically my thought process behind this is to read the news, but I end up watching some pretty dumb videos that are not furthering my education at all. 30 minutes later I’m still laying in bed, my morning routine is shot, and I now have to rush to get everything done before leaving for work. I go to bed on the same routine. Plug my phone in, sleep, repeat.